➡️ Perfeccionismo: tentar alcançar um objetivo que é inatingível vai fazer com que te inferiorizes;
➡️ Julgar os outros e a ti mesmo: quando julgas, estás apenas a focar te nas qualidades negativas dos outros e de ti mesmo;
➡️ Dúvida das tuas capacidades: se não acabares com este problema de raiz, ele pode tomar conta da tua vida;
➡️ Assumir que o pior vai acontecer: se não pensares que o melhor vai acontecer isso vai te desmotivar;
➡️ Preocupação: preocupação não muda nada à exceção da tua saúde e estado mental;
➡️ Reclamar: quando te focas nas coisas negativas, estás a preparar o caminho para nunca seres feliz;
➡️ Tentar controlar tudo: não podes ter controlo sobre tudo e quando tentas e falhas, vais acabar a culpar te por isso.
Autoria: Ana Estevão
~ a shoulder to lean on ~
Imagine this: you’re sitting down with a friend who you know is in crisis and who’s about to break down but fighting back the tears and pushing away the emotions. Afraid that they will not be able to cope if they let the bottled up feelings come out. What if you said: “It’s okay to not be strong right now. And to not be strong for as long as you need. I am here for you and I’m not going anywhere. You can lean on me, I can take it.”
Now imagine someone saying this to you. How would that make you feel?
There are moments in everyone’s life when it’s just not the time to soldier on, to man up. When it’s not the time to power through. Sometimes it’s time to lean on someone who makes you feel safe and cared for, so you can recharge and gather your strengths. Soon enough you’ll be strong again. And soon enough you’ll be the one to lean on.
Mental & Emotional Health check🛎🛎🛎
This meme says it all but “don’t beat yourself up over something you may not be doing or doing “their way”, giving or “giving their way”, saying or “saying their way”.
Remember you are enough as you are where you are for somebody. While self reflection and growth are absolutely necessary and important, if you’re not being appreciated- CHANGE YOUR SITUATION.
Suffering is in complete is yours and yours only and it’s up to you how you handle what you’re feeling. If you have had enough , take the steps to change yourself, your situation/ circumstances, and move forward.
Ever notice how some outlets although charging your device will instantly make it HOT 🔥!!? And you become nervous, worried, and constantly check it to make sure it doesn’t get damaged!?!?! Well hun, every socket isn’t created equal & just because there’s an electrical current running through it, doesn’t mean it’s working well or for you! Unplug, rest up, turn off, and recharge elsewhere! Imagine what could happen to that battery over time 😶
I am guilty of this too... so here’s a self check for us all!
Pay attention to who and what you’re plugging into.
Make sure you’re at the correct address for whatever reason and if not, ISSUE A SHIPPING RETURN LABEL ASAP! 🤣
Self check, reflect, correct ❤️
Throwback to a delicious lunch and excellent mocktails we had @redemptionbar in London 🍹💂 But there is no rest for the wicked as we are back in Cape Town and ready for tomorrow's Mindful Drinking Festival @mindfuldrinkingsa ☀️
Hey New Mama! 🤱🏼
I remember having my first baby. 😳Consumed with anxiety and emotions. You're entire body, mind, heart and LIFE is now about this little person. You love them so much it makes you cry. One minute you have a handle on things and the next the baby is screaming, you can't figure out why, so you're crying and you think to yourself, "omg will I ever be ME again?" The answer is YES!
This season is hard AF! But you are strong, you are capable and for your baby, you are WILLING to do whatever it takes! Agree? Duh! Now I want you to feel the same way about yourself.. your physical health, your mental health and your heart! You CANNOT be the best mom if you are neglecting yourself and that is FACT!
So I want you to know that I have been there!! Exactly where you are! But I found ME again! And my family flourishes because of that! Please know you are not alone, and I don't ever want you to be alone! The solution is YOU Mama!
This week I discovered how to metabolise emotional charge through movement ... and I believe it was a game changer!
Basically, in a somewhat toxic environment where I spend part of my week out of current necessity, I've found a movement pattern that sets me up like teflon to allow personal attacks to slide.
This stunning discovery was delivered to me via a highly skilled Hakomi psychotherapist.
I do love to gather pearls of wisdom from the vast sea of modalities and practitioners that exist in these dynamic and multidisciplinary times.
It frustrates me and many that the Australian medical system does not recognise such effective therapies as essential keys to health, including mental / emotional / overall health. I am exceedingly fortunate to have the opportunity to engage with them on occasion.
And I'm reminded and resolved that although the Australian government does not recognise my qualification, it does not dilute the potency of such work.
hi friends🦋 i hope you all have a lovely weekend💜 credit: @stacieswift
Yup...very much so.
I have a food shop due and my dog needs caring for, otherwise I'd have stayed asleep for longer. It's just gone 1pm and I'm still in bed.
I thought I was maybe doing a bit better but I crashed again. Too fragile and sensitive to be around people again. I dont want to be alone but it feels safer this way.
I really do feel like I'm losing my mind...that's the only way I can describe it. I have too much going off inside, too many emotions, sensations, memories, voices and I cant make sense of anything it's just a big loud mess. Physically I'm suffering too, I've had a migraine on and off since Tuesday, my whole body aches or constantly feels uncomfortable, like something is crawling all over and inside my skin and I cant get it off.
I dont want to be in my head. I'm so tired and scared and I cant keep fighting this.
I'm sorry to go on 😔 I will be fine...I'm always fine. But this still hurts. This is still hell.
Five months ago, I was at my heaviest. I’m not talking about the weight. It wasn’t the size that mattered, it was the reason behind it. The binge eating for comfort, the heavy drinking to turn off my brain...the denial, the anxiety waking up at 3 am wondering if I “embarrassed myself...” the fake posts, the cover ups...it had to stop. For myself, Sam, my family, my team. It wasn’t fair.
Seek help, get help. You are not alone, nor are you a broken thing. If something feels off, claw your way to the light. Fight for the light. Thank God for doctors, therapists, proper medication, my immediate family, and my team family. I’m not sure where I would be without them ALL.
I’m in tears writing this because I am finding MY FIERCE for the first time in my LIFE. I am so thankful. I will forever talk about this because it NEEDS TO BE HEARD. You are WORTHY. It is NEVER too late.
It's a bit of a 'getting jobs done' kinda weekend for us - but always some time outdoors too 🥰 Our #parkrun was cancelled this morning but we did a homemade one with our buddies round the corner in the field behind their house! 👍 .
Dinner date tonight and then a chiillll evening - it's been a rare weekend of no Friday or Saturday night plans which feels a bit of a treat! Making the most 🥰 Hope your weekend is what you need, even if you're #gettingstuffdone like us 😊
I can't say a lot about it because of the nature of the work but I had a brilliantly positive and very rewarding afternoon yesterday at the hospital unit.
To see these people's interest in the upcoming writing project and to meet them was very special and such a privilege.
Plus these books were purchased for the unit's library including @courage_darkness_to_light charity book featuring 11 authors mental health shirt stories.
Hearing other peoples experiences are well received and I know exactly why!
🌴Kale dreamin'... Whoops I mean Cali!✨ .
Earlier this year we decided that life would be slightly better if we had less Manitoba 🇨🇦 winter ❄️ and more roadtrips. So we started telling people about our plans, trusting that with intention and patience, our trip would come into being. 🚙🌴 .
The two biggest items on our pre-roadtrip checklist are checked off!! Found a farm sitter and purchased a used minivan. Both things came together easily, like they were meant to be, as things tend to do when you're flowing with the Universe. 💚🌒♾ .
I'm acutely aware of what I was doing wrong in the past, so when I see others still stuck in the trap, it hurts my heart! 💚 Out of pure love I want you to know: If you feel overworked, as though you're both fighting life and missing it at the same time, remember that you are in control of your reality. Being so busy you don't have time to do things you love or spend time with people who are important to you doesn't need to be a status symbol. Say No. Set some boundaries in your life and make room for more of the good. What you are choosing in your life, you are giving power to. Make it only what is truly important to you and what you want more of! ☃️🚙🌴 .
What are YOU focusing on to improve your life? Comment below! 👇
Its been longer than I know since I've posted here. The last few months have been a roller coaster ride. From battling depression and heart break after losing my dog, to debilitating health issues, not being able to go to the gym and gaining weight- I haven't had much to post about. This photo isn't even from the past few months. Its from one of the last times I remember feeling just blissfully happy in life. It was just a couple of weeks before things changed so much. I know everyone grieves and I know everyone experiences things that are out of their control. I never realized just how much grief and uncertain health issues can change how you act, think and feel full circle. For now I'm just taking it one day at a time and spending plenty of time listening to my body and cuddling with my cat lol. ✌